@Prak
1) A pretty big deal. I want Weapon Focus to get Weapon Specialization and Ranged Weapon Mastery Piercing. This way I can actually hit stuff. I'm a CR 8, and the DM's sending us up against stuff with AC 30, DR 10/- (not always, but still more times than I've got fingers). My magic composite bow only does 1d8+3 (magic +1, str +1, point blank shot +1), with a total attack of +11/+6. Rapid Shot and Arrow Swarm (Targetteer feat) makes that -2 for 1 additional attack or -5 for two. Improved Rapid Shot reduces those penalties by 2. I want to be able to hit stuff, and do damage. Right now, I'm not doing that unless it's a critical.
2) I wouldn't say that, no. He was advertising, and I was looking for a game. I joined his group a couple of months ago.
3) Pretty much, yeah. There are other players, but almost no DMs. At least not for D&D. They've pretty much all retired, and are doing MMOs. The only other group that I've ever actually been with, we had a major falling out. That group made your characters for you, and if you weren't their absolute bestest friend in the whole wide world, you got a fairly useless character (ie a monk 5/shadow dancer 5 drow, or a cleric 6/barbarian 6 elf, in a CR 18 campaign with everyone else being monster characters, including an adult gold dragon and orge mage sorcerer 10, and you're always in daylight).
@DaveoftheRave
1) I have no idea.
2) Put it this way. Before we started the game, he gave us his house rules. It's 19 pages long. He's also stingy on gold, which is why Vow of Poverty is not allowed.
3) This is the other game. I'd have to leave the city to find more.