To be fair, and maybe go a bit against the current in the thread, I dont really agree that its all the DMs fault and that he isnt your friend because he doesnt allow you to do whatever you want.
Yes, he seems to like for the games to go his way. And its understandable that you dont like it. But truth be told, by what you wrote down, your character is by far the strongest in the party. Only the druid might compare, and by what you've said, she (btw, that comment about her was really unnecessary) doesnt really do much except send her pet to kill stuff. And you obviously are trying to make your character shine even more. Nothing wrong with that in a regular game, but does it really come as a shock to you that he denied psychic reformation? Sure, phb2 gives the option to retrain, but its an alternate ruling (personally I allow it, but most people I talked to actually dont, but then again I allow most things and just ask that my players dont try to break the campaign).
The DM obviously isnt a CO regular, but there's no reason to bash on his friendship just because he doesnt share the same view about a game like you do.
Personally, if I was faced with a campaign like that, I'd probably try to pull of something weird like a no loops attached fochluran lyrist, black flame zealot (although your rogue/cleric seems to be going that way ) or anything silly like that. But if you already chose a system unfamiliar to a conservative DM while being the most powerful player on the table (borderline overpowered from your DMs point of view) ... You really cant be surprised he takes some candy away from you.
You could just adapt to the situation and fling a few psionic fireballs around .
Drull, dealing with an anal retentive DM and dealing with another gamer hurling obvious and pointed insults (to the extent of bringing in past exploits no less, making it a blatantly calculated slap in the face) are two TOTALLY different ballgames. As I said before, he's lucky it's Saemon and not me, as Saeomon seems to be a bit more level about it than my fire-headed ass would be
Drull, before I respond to what you wrote, I want to say that I'm not upset at what you said. I think it takes guts to go against the current of a thread. I can respect that.
I've put myself in my DM's shoes and I actually can see things from the perspective of one running the game. Objectively speaking, yes, my character is powerful. Perhaps equal to the Druid, and arguably leaps and bounds ahead of other characters in the group. I won't dispute that.
I'm also willing to modify how I play the game in order to accommodate others, including the DM. I feel I've been reasonable all along.
What upsets me isn't what my DM has done but HOW my DM has done it. The manner in which my DM has responded to my inquiries, requests, and playstyle has been uniformly disrespectful. Like I said, this is somebody whom I've known for a long time, and I'm playing in a game with others both my DM and I have known for quite awhile. With all of my requests and inquiries, I approached my DM in the spirit of collaboration. My DM responded with an authoritarian hand.
To be treated like that by somebody I've known for years, gamed with in the past, and to whose authority as DM I was respectful was a shock and an insult.
To be blunt, I feel I'm being treated as a powergamer/munchkin/whatever-you-wanna-call-it that's out to break the game and ruin everybody else's fun. In light of my history with my DM and the circumstances I believe this treatment is wholly unfair.
So I'm left with two sad choices: I either soldier on, change my play style to accommodate my DM, and hope that things change; or I leave the group in as dignified a manner as possible.
My DM's made clear that there will be no compromises. From what my DM's said to me, I doubt there's much I can do to change their perception of me as a powergamer. Therefore, I'm leaning towards leaving.
As for anything I've said which can be interpreted as a slight upon the character of my DM's significant other, the other players, or even about my DM outside of the context of how this game is being run, I'm sorry. I don't intend to breed more ill will by making this about more than it is. Unfortunately, I'm feeling quite deeply wounded. Since my feelings are hurt I'm more likely to err and hurt others. For that I apologize.