How best to optimize this Gray Elf Telepath/Full Manifesting Mindbender?

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Intro
The campaign starts at ECL1.  Assume all 3.5 material is allowed with "Dragon" and custom stuff allowed pending DM approval.  Hyperconscious is allowed.  I plan to research additional powers (normally 200XP per level) as prudent.

I've read build guides and "What's the Most Powerful Psionic Power" thread. This character is about mind controlling people, and I build it for a friend who has her heart set on going Telepath5/Mindbender10.  Mindbender is full casting/manifesting, as I believe it should be.

My party mates are uncertain.

Stats (Rolled)
07 STR  (9  base -2 race)
16 DEX  (14 base +2 race)
14 CON  (16 base -2 race)
20 INT  (18 base +2 race)
12 WIS  (12 base)
10 CHA  (10 base)

Build
Gray Elf Telepath5/Mindbender10/Telepath+5
*Psionic Feat.  Includes homebrew psionic feats and psionic adaptations of feats.

1:  {Aggressive}, {Murky-Eyed], {Noncombatant}
1:  [Agitating Telepathy* - Homebrew.  Target must save twice against Telepathy effects], Hidden Talent: astral construct*, Improved Initiative, Psionic Body*
3:  Psionic Mastery*
4:  *+1 INT*
5:  [Alertness], Psicrystal Affinity*: +2 Initiative
6:  Mindsight, [Telepathy: 100']
7:  [Push the Weak Mind 1/day: suggestion for 5 hours + 1 hour/Mindbender level, DC 13 + INT mod negates], [Skill Boost: +1/2 Mindbender level as a Competence bonus on Bluff/Diplomacy/Intimidate/Sense Motive]
7:  - = - = PSYCHIC REFORMATION (Changes Yet Uncertain) = - = -
8: 
9:  [Eternal Charm 1/day: charm monster on Large or smaller creature], -=FEAT=-
10:
11:
12: [Dominate 1/day: dominate monster on Large or smaller creature for 24 hours], -=FEAT=-
13:
14:
15: [Thrall: Dominate ability has permanent duration], -=FEAT=-
16:
17:
18: -=FEAT=-
20: [*PSIONIC FEAT*]

*PSIONIC FEAT POOL*
-Linked Power* (Complete Psionic 62)
-Metamorphic Transfer*
-Overchannel*
-Psicrystal Containment*
-Psionic Meditation*
-Talented*

-=FEAT POOL=-
-Earth Power (Races of Stone 138) - Requires Earth Sense
-Earth Sense (Races of Stone 138)
-Reserves of Strength (Dragonlance Campaign Setting 86)

Psionic Powers
This progression doesn't include the exact times I research powers, or when I use psychic reformation.

1:  Astral Construct (Feat), Charm, Grease, Vigor
2:  Entangling Ectoplasm, Synchronicity
3:  Energy Stun, Levitate
4:  Concealing Amorpha, Share Pain
5:  Psionic Blast, Sense Danger (Magic of Eberron 106)
6:  Dispel Psionics, Energy Cone
7:  Dominate, Freedom of Movement
8:  Dimension Door (Researched), Psychic Reformation, Schism
9:  Anticipatory Strike (Complete Psionic 78), True Seeing
10: ~POWER~, ~POWER~
11: Contingency, Temporal Acceleration
12: Inconstant Location (Complete Psionic 91), ~POWER~

Research Candidates: Level 1 (200XP)
Catfall
Ecto Protection [NEEDED for Constructor!]
Entangling Ectoplasm
Minor Creation
Resistance (Hyperconscious 107)
Synchronicity

Research Candidates: Level 2 (400XP)
Amethyst Burst (Dragon Magic 75)
Energy Adaptation, Specified
Energy Missile
Sense Danger (Magic of Eberron 106)
Share Pain

Research Candidates: Level 3 (600XP)
...

Research Candidates: Level 4 (800XP)
Intellect Fortress
Metamorphosis
Schism
Wall of Ectoplasm

Research Candidates: Level 5 (1000XP)
Psionic Revivify

Research Candidates: Level 6 (1200XP)
Disintegrate

Psicrystal Build[spoiler]*Psionic Feat

1:  Hidden Talent: astral construct
3:  Martial Stance: Bolstering Voice
6:  Practiced Initiator (Homebrew; Initiator Level = HD)
9:  Martial Study: White Raven Tactics
12: Martial Study: Shadow Stride

Skills to Max
-Spot[/spoiler]
Misc. Stats[spoiler]
Favored Class
Doesn't Matter - We aren't using it.

HP @1
12 = 4 + 2 CON + 6 Psionic Body

PP @1
6 = 2 Level + 2 INT + 2 Hidden Talent

Saves @1
Fort: 2  (0 base + 2 CON)
Ref:  3  (0 base + 3 DEX)
Will: 3  (2 base + 1 WIS)

Initiative @1
9 = 3 DEX +4 Improved Initiative +2 Aggressive

AC @1
13+4 = 10 +4 (inertial armor) +1 (Buckler) +3 (DEX) -1 (Aggressive)

Flat: 10+4

Touch: 12

Resists & Immunities @1
Immunities
-Sleep (Elfhood)

Skill Ranks (Max Ranks = 3 + HD)
-Acrobatics             4 - Balance + Tumble
-Bluff                  4
-Concentration          4
-Diplomacy              4 - Also Intimidate in our game.
-Knowledge: Arcana      1
-Knowledge: Nature      1
-Knowledge: Psionics    1
-Sense Motive           4
-Spellcraft             1 - Also Psicraft

Languages Known @1
Common
Draconic
Elven
Giant
Orc
Sylvan
Undercommon