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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #220 on: July 12, 2008, 09:04:37 AM »
I hear sex is usually better than masterbation.

For guys, usually yes... For girls... It depends. It depends on a lot of things.
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I think the main things are Mood and Lover skill
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #221 on: July 12, 2008, 09:13:01 AM »
Find better lovers?

Well, I now know I'm really tired because that made me laugh for a good 2 minutes. :D

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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #222 on: July 12, 2008, 09:16:16 AM »
Find better lovers?

Well, I now know I'm really tired because that made me laugh for a good 2 minutes. :D
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #223 on: July 12, 2008, 09:36:39 AM »
Find better lovers?

Well, I now know I'm really tired because that made me laugh for a good 2 minutes. :D
Don't you live in the US?  You should be sleeping.
You mean like you, Uber? :P
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #224 on: July 12, 2008, 09:47:50 AM »
I hear sex is usually better than masterbation.

It isn't.
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #225 on: July 12, 2008, 09:52:27 AM »
Find better lovers?

Well, I now know I'm really tired because that made me laugh for a good 2 minutes. :D
Don't you live in the US?  You should be sleeping.

Meh. Sleep is for the weak.
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #226 on: July 12, 2008, 09:53:57 AM »
G'night :)
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #227 on: July 12, 2008, 10:50:59 AM »
I fully intend to live like Tony Stark.  Right now is just the training stage.

So brilliant, filthy rich, good looking, and a total asshole? Or are we talking about Tony Stark after he's done being a self-indulgent jerk.

Plus, I think being "the man" as guys like to put it (where you sleep around with tons of girls) is just friggin crazy. There are so many STDs out there-many of which are either incurable or even deadly... Why take that chance? Unattached sex ain't worth the slew of problems that can come from it (babies, STDs, AIDs). This is all merely my opinion.

Clearly I don't fully understand the male psyche. 

AIDS is an STD. :P

With that said yes, STDs discourage the casual sleep around thing. If the girl is clean, you don't have to worry about that if you settle down... as long as she doesn't go sleeping around either and gets it that way. Babies however are a risk regardless, unless she gets herself sterilized (or you do, either way). They are arguably more of a risk if you settle with someone from the male's perspective as you're more likely to be stuck with the unwanted child as opposed to her not knowing who the father is and being unable to stick you with child support as easily. And although this should go without saying, if the child is wanted it isn't a problem now is it?

In summary, you are partially correct but got a few of the details wrong.

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Let's see... I got brilliant, rich I have no comment about, good looking... general consensus is yes, and am definitely a total asshole to those that deserve it (which is most people). Not too shabby.

I actually had to be taught how to accept compliments.  When I was little I would simply say, "I know," and stare at people like they were stating the sky is blue.  I have learned that you do this:
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I'm not the only one that got that? I'd just kinda look at them and say "Ok..." as if they were stating a fact, and I was prompting them to get to the point.

And as for the lover skill bit... if he's just the type to lean over you and grunt, yeah I can see that. If he knows what he's doing... :smirk
« Last Edit: July 12, 2008, 11:01:39 AM by Sunic_Flames »
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #228 on: July 12, 2008, 11:01:33 AM »
Sometimes those mistakes are good. I bet some of us are mistakes :P
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #229 on: July 12, 2008, 11:03:10 AM »
Yay for ninjas. From the perspective of the two involved was it good? Probably not, as it threw a wrench in their lifestyle. And if it didn't, it wouldn't be classified as a mistake, it'd be thought of in a positive light. Yeah, it's good for you obviously if you were involved in that (impersonal you), but if it didn't happen you wouldn't know the difference. *shrugs*
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Sunic may be more abrasive than sandpaper coated in chainsaws (not that its a bad thing, he really does know what he's talking about), but just posting in this thread without warning and telling him he's an asshole which, if you knew his past experiences on WotC and Paizo is flat-out uncalled for. Never mind the insults (which are clearly 4Chan-level childish). You say people like Sunic are the bane of the internet? Try looking at your own post and telling me you are better than him.

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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #230 on: July 12, 2008, 03:15:51 PM »
What do people think about Cohabitation vs Marriage?

I'm kinda up in the air about it.  Call me a romantic, but I like the idea of being married to a woman and having the family thing and all that.  Plus, taxes are better (from what I've heard, I'm no accountant).  But, sometimes people should just live together and be happy, marriage can put pressure on a relationship.  Or not?
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #231 on: July 12, 2008, 03:29:34 PM »
I've found the only purpose to marriage is a legal/financial thing. Everything else you could do without it. Then there's the fairly obvious drawback you hear about often - woman takes half your stuff.
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #232 on: July 12, 2008, 04:52:19 PM »
I hear sex is usually better than masterbation.

For guys, usually yes... For girls... It depends. It depends on a lot of things.

 ;)  ... :smirk ...  :eh

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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #233 on: July 12, 2008, 07:44:45 PM »
Nah, I'm with BobismyRhino- it depends.  It depends on the mood, it depends on the setting, it depends on what I'm looking for... there's no clear "best" in anything. 
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #234 on: July 12, 2008, 09:12:01 PM »
Nah, I'm with BobismyRhino- it depends.  It depends on the mood, it depends on the setting, it depends on what I'm looking for... there's no clear "best" in anything. 
Yes.  What counts as great sex the first time is great sex.
The second time it's more of a good thing, I guess.
The third time it's...hey, don't you know any other techniques?
The fourth time it's just boring.
The fifth time it's nonexistent because I've found someone who can enjoy more than one type of sex and I'm no longer dating you.

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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #235 on: July 13, 2008, 01:14:09 AM »
Sometimes those mistakes are good. I bet some of us are mistakes :P

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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #236 on: July 13, 2008, 01:50:59 AM »
I rode in the car for 15 hours today.  I knew when my sleep would come.  Got a good 5 hours today.

What are the thoughts on a guy actually practicing and taking feedback to improve technique (this is pretty much the hook I used to suggest friends with benefits)?
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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #237 on: July 13, 2008, 01:59:21 AM »
;)  ... :smirk ...  :eh

It could depend on whether it's the 1st horn of the "rhino" or the 2nd horn of the "rhino".


I could also depend on whether the "rhino" bellows or not.


 :lol I nearly pissed myself from laughing so hard at this.

Yes.  What counts as great sex the first time is great sex.
The second time it's more of a good thing, I guess.
The third time it's...hey, don't you know any other techniques?
The fourth time it's just boring.
The fifth time it's nonexistent because I've found someone who can enjoy more than one type of sex and I'm no longer dating you.

Actually, I think that the more sex you have with someone, the more you're able to figure out what drives both you and your partner wild. Kinda like practice makes perfect. Sure, you sometimes need to ignore your comfort levels and just experiment, but frankly, the more you know what little things get your partner off, and the more you know what you like (and are comfortable enough to vocalize requests of your partner) the better the sex is.

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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #238 on: July 13, 2008, 02:09:54 AM »
Actually, I think that the more sex you have with someone, the more you're able to figure out what drives both you and your partner wild. Kinda like practice makes perfect. Sure, you sometimes need to ignore your comfort levels and just experiment, but frankly, the more you know what little things get your partner off, and the more you know what you like (and are comfortable enough to vocalize requests of your partner) the better the sex is.
Absolutely.  However, when someone likes only one particular thing, wants only one particular thing, and can't do more than one thing for you...you're going to have issues keeping it interesting in the sack for more than a month. :P

There is nothing like settling into the rhythm of comfortable I-know-you sex. :)  It's like that good recipe you have: a comfy old standby, tastes good, not too fussy or time consuming to make, but so enjoyable, and you keep making it over and over again...and it still tastes delicious.

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Re: Relationship Advice (Was: Some Tips for Single Gamers)
« Reply #239 on: July 15, 2008, 04:30:32 PM »
WordSlinger done dug hisself a big ol' hole here guys. I'll warn ya now, it is a massive wall o' text...
[spoiler]Like most stories, mine begins with a girl. We'll call her Elliot for the purposes of this discussion. Elliot was the first girl I ever really had romantic feelings for, and for the last four years of High School, during which time both of us have had many other relationships, I began to love her, to think that she was my 'special person.'
At this point I should tell you about Elliot's girlfriend (to clarify, Elliot is bisexual), who we shall call Shaun for reasons Scrubs fans will probably find very obvious. Shaun, until a couple of weeks ago, had been exchange-student-ing in Indonesia.
About a month ago, on a fateful Wednesday night, we went to see the movie Iron Man. This was a fairly regular thing for us to do, and everything felt normal until I walked her to her door, because I'm a gentleman. But, as we hugged good-bye, we looked at each other and kissed, real kissing, amazing kissing. At this point Shaun was still in Indonesia, but when I tried to talk to Elliot about it, she told me I should drop it and we should continue being friends.
As one can probably expect, such a rapid rising and complete crushing of my hope left me hurt; so I did what every man does when he is truly hurt, I withdrew and stopped answering my phone when she called, and began the long and painful process of getting over Elliot.
Now enters the final character in this tragic comedy, we'll call her Kim. Kim was a girl who was a co-worker and class-mate of mine. We met at the beginning of this year and I've always had a crush on her, but have been unable to ask her out for one reason or another. As many people will tell you, when getting over a person, the best route to take is to try and start something new. To be clear, I do genuinely like Kim, I wasn't trying to use her solely to get over Elliot.
So, fast forward to this Wednesday. We were working together, and as we were locking up the store I asked her if she wanted to see "Get Smart" with me on Friday(Which most of you will recognize as today), she told me she would give me a y/n when she came to get her paycheck yesterday/Thursday, but I ended up leaving before she came and she hasn't returned my calls.
Also on Wednesday, I found out that Elliot and Shaun had broken up. So, because I knew she was going to be hurting pretty bad, and she was my best friend, whatever else, I decided to go try and cheer her up on Thursday after work. We hung out for a couple hours, watched The X-Files and Friends, had a generally fun time. As I was getting ready to go, I made the same mistake twice. I hugged her and when I tried to break the hug she wasn't letting go (I didn't actually let go, but I did relax pressure). I looked down at her, and before I knew it, we were kissing again. I left in kind of a hurry, told her I had to baby-sit my little brother, which was only a half-truth.
And now Kim hasn't called me back.
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tl;dr: There are two girls, one I loved and one I could love. The one I loved wants me now, and I have no idea about the other.
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