Author Topic: Episode 36: Don't Kick People out of your game (Read 58206 times)

Nanshork · « **Reply #80 on:** March 19, 2009, 03:58:25 PM »

Quote from: Josh on March 19, 2009, 02:44:21 PM

You should be respectful of people because they deserve it. Not because they reciprocate.

Respect must be earned, it is not an innate right.

Robert Bohl · « **Reply #81 on:** March 19, 2009, 03:59:56 PM »

Quote from: Nanshork on March 19, 2009, 03:58:25 PM

Quote from: Josh on March 19, 2009, 02:44:21 PM
You should be respectful of people because they deserve it. Not because they reciprocate.

Respect must be earned, it is not an innate right.

That works if you consider respect a thing that costs to give, and not as something that improves you. I don't always get there, but I try.

Josh · « **Reply #82 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:02:50 PM »

Correct but people get the beneft of doubt when you first meet them and sometimes you salute the uniform not the man

Zeke · « **Reply #83 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:07:54 PM »

It takes respect to get respect. Not in the "if you don't respect me I won't respect you" but rather, if I treat people with nominal respect I will establish that I am a person who believes in fair treatment.

Nanshork · « **Reply #84 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:09:54 PM »

I will agree that people get the benefit of the doubt when you first meet them, but I have no need of being respected by those I have no respect for and I have never saluted the uniform when I knew the man and didn't respect him.

Meg · « **Reply #85 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:11:27 PM »

Quote from: emissary666 on March 19, 2009, 02:31:18 PM

I have a problem with your idea of being polite to other players. When I was a DM (back in 7th grade) I had no respect for my players, when I was a player (still 7th grade) I STILL didn't have respect for the players. Maybe this makes me a bad person, but if I am not shown respect I do not show respect.

No, this shows that you were in 7th grade.

We mentioned but perhaps should've clarified that our advice was (is) for adults. Youth have a different perspective and lack the wisdom to realize how idiotic they are.

So much of the bad advice is simply a lack of maturity.

Zeke · « **Reply #86 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:13:22 PM »

Quote from: Nanshork on March 19, 2009, 04:09:54 PM

I will agree that people get the benefit of the doubt when you first meet them, but I have no need of being respected by those I have no respect for and I have never saluted the uniform when I knew the man and didn't respect him.

the operative part is "when I knew the man"

I have spent my life working with groups of people others find repellant, by aproaching with firmness and respect I have established relationships with them that others are unable to.

Zeke · « **Reply #87 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:18:32 PM »

I can't believe there isn't any caveman/astronaut or Gandalf/Yoda controversy yet.

Nanshork · « **Reply #88 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:34:21 PM »

Quote from: Zeke on March 19, 2009, 04:13:22 PM

Quote from: Nanshork on March 19, 2009, 04:09:54 PM
I will agree that people get the benefit of the doubt when you first meet them, but I have no need of being respected by those I have no respect for and I have never saluted the uniform when I knew the man and didn't respect him.

the operative part is "when I knew the man"

I have spent my life working with groups of people others find repellant, by aproaching with firmness and respect I have established relationships with them that others are unable to.

Well to be honest I don't salute any uniforms, I was speaking more along the lines of people with power over me in general.

Zeke · « **Reply #89 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:37:06 PM »

I get that.

Nanshork · « **Reply #90 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:40:04 PM »

I was just clarifying.

As for the other part, that's a plus on your part but there's a difference between working with groups of people and choosing to game with them. I refuse to game with people that I don't like because it lessens my enjoyment of the game. Since the whole point of gaming is to enjoy myself, I see no reason to not do so to my fullest extent.

Zeke · « **Reply #91 on:** March 19, 2009, 04:42:38 PM »

I think youmight be limiting yourself. If you try to understand people many times you discover good things you night otherwise have missed. Be open and fearless, that's my advice.

Nanshork · « **Reply #92 on:** March 19, 2009, 05:07:09 PM »

We have different views on the value of being open and fearless. I'll not drag this thread down any further with my particular personality quirks so I'll leave it at that.

emissary666 · « **Reply #93 on:** March 19, 2009, 05:17:27 PM »

Quote from: Zeke on March 19, 2009, 04:18:32 PM

I can't believe there isn't any caveman/astronaut or Gandalf/Yoda controversy yet.

Well, for starters, GET OUT OF THE PIRATE CAMP! Ninjas are far better.

Meg · « **Reply #94 on:** March 19, 2009, 05:24:38 PM »

Quote from: Nanshork on March 19, 2009, 04:40:04 PM

I was just clarifying.

As for the other part, that's a plus on your part but there's a difference between working with groups of people and choosing to game with them. I refuse to game with people that I don't like because it lessens my enjoyment of the game. Since the whole point of gaming is to enjoy myself, I see no reason to not do so to my fullest extent.

The 4th episode in the series is exactly this- how to choose the right group and head off the problems before you start.

emissary666 · « **Reply #95 on:** March 19, 2009, 06:54:20 PM »

I don't give the benefit of the doubt. I give respect when I am shown respect.

Arcane-surge · « **Reply #96 on:** March 19, 2009, 06:58:01 PM »

That sounds like a pretty good idea, Emissary. So good that maybe everybody should do it. Except if they did, who would respect whom?

Josh · « **Reply #97 on:** March 19, 2009, 06:58:37 PM »

Yeah, so that's wrong. Don't do that.

Robert Bohl · « **Reply #98 on:** March 19, 2009, 06:58:55 PM »

Quote from: emissary666 on March 19, 2009, 06:54:20 PM

I don't give the benefit of the doubt. I give respect when I am shown respect.

Why? And who has to show respect first? And how can you determine if you're shown respect? Do you go into a situation assuming you won't be respected?

Josh · « **Reply #99 on:** March 19, 2009, 07:02:13 PM »

We all posted at he same time we are not ganging up.

Please don't feel like that

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Author Topic: Episode 36: Don't Kick People out of your game (Read 58206 times)